Have you tried using Google's webmaster tools yet?
https://www.google.com/webmasters/tools/siteoverview
The external links tool isn't 100% accurate but comes very close to keeping track of all backlinks. The backlinks checker on the toolbar is crap. If you haven't, sign up for the webmasters tools Google has given us. It's getting better all the time.
You might also try
Web Position 4 to monitor your websites rankings and to keep track of your competitors website rankings vs. yours... It's bad ass. A very slick tool indeed.