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It is very hard when only one partner is doing all the loving - there seems to be a major imbalance with the way that different people love - i have loved too much, and i have been loved too much - strangely, the people who i have loved too much have not loved back enough and the people who have loved me too much, well i haven't loved them enough. Tis hard to find two people who can make the right balance and i know an awful lot of people who are married, yet one of those people simply aren't having their needs met but stick with it anyway for many reasons.
It is also sad that often outside influence can come in and rattle a relationship, people can still love each other but the external influence just shatters the love - love can turn to resentment very easily which is a shame.
It does hurt to be left alone when you still love someone and you can bend over backwards and give all you have BUT if the feelings aren't being returned people either walk away or stay and feel the pain and insecurity on a daily basis.
I don't think that we can always control our hearts and we all have different reasons for wanting to be "in love". Wish i could go back 25 years to a time when i didn't need love and all of its complications.
anne
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