the link below might help, Costin, i'm sure it's my explanation that's the problem and not yor mind being elsewhere!
basically i found the menu design from there and all i want to do is make it so the menu is dynamic, otherwise it's kind of useless... They'e posted a great looking menu but in a static form when it's deisgned to be dynamic. So in otherwords they expect you to be using it on single HTML pages, where the menu is reloaded every single time and it's currently selected item is hard-codedly shifted around.
http://www.dynamicdrive.com/style/cs...n-bricks-menu/
Cheers,
Boog's