Steve - she's not asking for money, but has graciously offered to let me use "her" chart and review if I credit her and link to her site. Seeing as how the information is my own, I'm not in favor of that compromise.
Right now my pages are down. I want to get them back up and stop this harassment. My host is willing to put the pages back, but doesn't know if she can because the issue isn't resolved. If she puts them back he other party will most likely send another DMCA notice, I'd counter, then the pages would be down another 10-14 days. I don't want to wait, so I'm hoping that by hiring a lawyer to write a letter it'll show her I won't be bullied.