How Do You Deal With Anger?

[Cricket]

Allowing Anger To Consume Us
http://blog.v7n.com/2012/05/08/anger/

“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” Buddha

When anger takes over, what are some things that you do to let it go?

[stephengfm]

Pray that I can do this

The Lord (Jesus Christ) calls us to: Be merciful; Overlook the sins of others; Not to take revenge; Treat people with love and grace.

I fail more often than not with one or more of them. Of course, the Good News is that I can learn from my mistakes and continue onward.

[MrSS]

Oh, anger ... I love playing Angry Birds too. But that's another way to divert my anger.
The first thing I do when in rage, I take a deeepppp breath, both eyes closed and counting from 1 to 10. If within 1-10 and I'm still angry, I count again from 1 to 100. If counting from so on and so forth didn't work, I read any of my favorite books. That way my attention would be focused on what I'm reading, not on the things that made me angry. And guess what, after reading I would definitely feel sleepy. LOL

And yes, I always have book in my bag.

I know when a person is angry, that person is BLIND and DEAF. They didn't SEE the other side of the coin, for them they are always right, making them BLIND.
They didn't LISTEN to anybody, any reason, as in anything, making them DEAF.

So it's pointless to argue with somebody who's angry, nothing will make any sense until one has composed and regain his humanity.

[Gypsy Mom]

This is a good subject for me. I am married to a man who deals with Asperger's Syndrome and really does not really understand relationships. I know he loves me, but I feel very lonely. He is also OCD and very focused on himself. I know being angry at him is not good for me or my daughters, but his lack of respect gets very old at times. I feel like I cannot state my feelings. I would love to hear how others deal with anger. I have tried many things, but the situation is not easy to deal with.

[Yev]

I know this may sound strange, but when I am angry I usually find a comforting space that is dead quiet and I will start talking to myself. I have noticed that the more I talk to myself, the less my anger builds-up. No psychiatrist is needed, I am quiet sane

[Julie]

Withdraw, hide and cry. Then I feel better able to deal with the situation calmly after that.

[Dreamrage]

Music. Strangely enough. Rock and Metal being the music of choice when I am angry/upset. Somehow it helps me to calm down. So when I get angry, I withdraw from the situation, and either go to my PC in my room and listen to music, or plug my earphones into my iphone and find a secluded spot if I am not at home.

[Gypsy Mom]

Thank you for your reply! I do find when I get away from the situation, the anger goes down! I also find the less I am around my husband, the more relaxed I am.

[searchbliss]

<sarcasm>I deal with anger swiftly by punching myself in the face. If this doesn't relieve the rage, I have loved ones punch me in the face. This makes me feel warm and fuzzy. </sarcasm>

[solprovider]

I drink cold water when i feel angry or just punch any thing

[searchbliss]

Originally Posted by solprovider

I drink cold water when i feel angry or just punch any thing

Don't punch your water if it's in a glass!

[ScriptMan]

I think the first thing you have to do, I admit it is hard and I often fail at it initially, is realize that we you allow the actions of others to affect the way you feel you have already lost the game. Only you control your happiness level.

Step away. Give reasoning time to set in. Time to cool off usually restores proper rational reasoning.

[alexand]

Just find a quiet place and stay alone.

[snakeair]

I step outside for a smoke and drop a few "F" Bombs.

Usually after a few minutes, i then gather myself and is back to normal.

[BiologyWebmaster]

I bang my head off of the wall several times, until I feel tired....then take a really hot bath.

Much Thanks,

BiologyWebmaster

[David.Pagotto]

Smash something

[G10]

Method I have found so far is by following the steps outlines below..

1, Take about 10 or so slow but deep breaths
2, Get in my car, fire her up - (whilst still breathing calm and deeply)
3, Put my cd player on about 3/4 - (Again, still taking deep relaxing breaths)
4, Wait until this starts playing - (Ultimate Meditation)
5, Clench teeth and breath through clenched teeth
6, Open eyes and then go for a drive through my city during rush hour whilst listening to said track listed above.

Ok granted, I am typing this from prison as currently serving 4 life sentences.. Hey, I never said it was the best method or worked




On a more serious note, the best method I have found is always to take a step back and put the situation into perspective as when you do this, you usually find it's not even worth getting angry about and thats usually the end of it, for me anyway.

[aira]

I do listen to music.. putting my earphones on, and temporarily shutting the world around me haha :p but honestly that actually works for me. Listening to my favorite songs makes me feel better

[scrapcar]

Deep breaths put the radio on.

[sandisk]

I play with cats and listen to good music ~