Absence of love kills - Page 3

Bonnie24 · 10-15-2007, 09:26 AM

i mean depend not on absence but on love itself...i am totally confused

DesignPro · 10-15-2007, 09:26 AM

Yea bon bon

Ooh you got a nic name

chicgeek · 10-15-2007, 09:27 AM

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Originally Posted by John Scott

So who defines "too much"?

Romeo and Juliet - who could not live without one another - should this not been seen as utterly beautiful love, and instead seen as a form of illness?

Fine, let me put it this way. They're reliant on each other in a bad way.

It's a definition of a word, not a moral debate.

John Scott · 10-15-2007, 09:27 AM

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Originally Posted by mikey.

Bonnie, be happy

Exactly. I've been married and I must say, it's a pain in the arse.

I could write songs in honor of living alone. They would be love songs.

Bonnie24 · 10-15-2007, 09:28 AM

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Originally Posted by mikey.

Bonnie, be happy with what you have, you have family and friends that love you, no need to get laid every other night like me to feel love. It's fine, love comes in different shapes and sizes (no pun intended). To me, family love is all you really need to get by.

If all else fails, get yourself a dog or a cat if you get lonely around the house. Pets are great company.

Mikey from your "advice" I feel like shooting myself from the gun - NEVER advise anything anyone!

DesignPro · 10-15-2007, 09:28 AM

Ok now im completely lost....

John Scott · 10-15-2007, 09:30 AM

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Originally Posted by chicgeek

Fine, let me put it this way. They're reliant on each other in a bad way.

It's a definition of a word, not a moral debate.

I know the word and the concept. By using the word, you've already accepted the conclusion that its definition presupposes.

So I think I'll redefine co-dependence as "the beautiful state of being in love a la Romeo and Juliet".

There, done, redefined. Now to write to Webster.

chicgeek · 10-15-2007, 09:30 AM

That dolt Webster will put any crap in his dictionaries. Why else do you think Americans spell "colour", "centre", "favourite", and other words incorrectly?

Hey John, feel up to making some new subforums?

Atom · 10-15-2007, 09:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Bonnie24

... cause i dont depend on a definite person..... ...

That's what I gathered.

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Originally Posted by Bonnie24

... so i depend on absence of love????

No, because you said you were looking.

John Scott · 10-15-2007, 09:32 AM

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Originally Posted by chicgeek

Hey John, feel up to making some new subforums?

*Pretending I did not read that. ...Slinking out of the forum on tippytoe.*

chicgeek · 10-15-2007, 09:33 AM

Come on John, it's been two months. It'll take what... five minutes?

Bonnie24 · 10-15-2007, 09:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Atom

That's what I gathered. No, because you said you were looking.

looking cause I am dying when I am single - i cant' be single (

John Scott · 10-15-2007, 09:36 AM

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Originally Posted by chicgeek

Come on John, it's been two months. It'll take what... five minutes?

If you promise to do the dir submissions today I'll promise to do the subforums today.

Julie · 10-15-2007, 09:36 AM

When one is co-dependent, they lose their sense of self. Their life revolves around pleasing the other person, making sure they are taken care of, doing only what they like to do...etc. Which doesn't sound all that horrible, but they take it to extremes. They often put up with completely unacceptable behavior for fear of abandonment. When not in a relationship, they feel worthless.

That is not beautiful love. That is severely flawed "love".

chicgeek · 10-15-2007, 09:38 AM

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Originally Posted by John Scott

If you promise to do the dir submissions today I'll promise to do the subforums today.

Mine will take ten times as long, but okay.

John Scott · 10-15-2007, 09:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Julie

When one is co-dependent, they lose their sense of self. Their life revolves around pleasing the other person, making sure they are taken care of, doing only what they like to do...etc. Which doesn't sound all that horrible, but they take it to extremes. They often put up with completely unacceptable behavior for fear of abandonment. When not in a relationship, they feel worthless.

That is not beautiful love. That is severely flawed "love".

That was yesterday, today I redefined it.

StrongInTheArm · 10-15-2007, 09:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Julie

When one is co-dependent, they lose their sense of self. Their life revolves around pleasing the other person, making sure they are taken care of, doing only what they like to do...etc. Which doesn't sound all that horrible, but they take it to extremes. They often put up with completely unacceptable behavior for fear of abandonment. When not in a relationship, they feel worthless.

That is not beautiful love. That is severely flawed "love".

This reminds me of globalisation. Sorry to but in.

John Scott · 10-15-2007, 09:39 AM

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Originally Posted by chicgeek

Mine will take ten times as long, but okay.

Setting up a forum appears easy, but then you got to set up all the permissions for every single usergroup in relation to that forum. And we have a lot of usergroups.

Julie · 10-15-2007, 09:42 AM

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Originally Posted by John Scott

That was yesterday, today I redefined it.

You can choose to interpret it that way, if it helps to get you through the days.

I, however, don't subscribe to your definition.

Atom · 10-15-2007, 09:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Bonnie24

looking cause I am dying when I am single - i cant' be single (

I interpreted your opening post correctly, then. I'm feeling a bit proud about that, it seems to me that I misinterpret too often.

Ok, just one more piece of advice: It is probably not a good idea to look online. Real life is best, IMO.