Why does exes want to be friends after a bad break-up?

[StrongInTheArm]

Originally Posted by kristeejo

I like pudding skin.

Was it Geogre in Seinfeld that used to collect them?

[Julie]

I think some people don't know how to let go. By keeping in contact in some small way, perhaps it lessens the pain for a bit. But in keeping in contact and staying "friends", you'll eventually have to deal with seeing that person with someone else, which isn't a picnic. And then, on the other side of the coin, dating someone who is friends with an ex, well that is no fun either...

So, um yea... I don't really go for that. I go for the band aid approach - just rip it off and get it over with. It'll hurt, but then it stops.

[poksa]

For only one reason, It's because He/she wants to clean his/her conscience.

[chai]

to clean his/her conscience? if that's the reason he/she's guilty in something...
I think he wants to survive the relationship as a "friends" between to him and you...

[potchie]

iam not giving you the " false hope" but i think there's still Love.

[ewomack]

Keeping in touch after a bitter breakup contains elements of both selfishness caring. When two entities that were once conjoined part ways, both sides go through chaos. It's a complete falsehood that the person that does the breaking up just goes on their merry way and yells "I'm free! I'm free!" That person is essentially in the same position as the person being broken up with: they've lost a connection they've built up over time. They can't just go out and handpick another one off some tree of love. Both people now have work to do and lives to rebuild. The selfish side wants to stay in touch with the old life just in case things don't work out in the new one. It's a kind of insurance policy. If things go sour, well, then you're friends who just call each other up. I think most of us have had relationships that break up, reconnect, and on and on. We're not sure what we're doing. Perhaps breaking up is a mistake? If so, then why cut all ties? Caring comes into it because the person breaking up can't just turn off every emotion they ever had for the dumpee. So it's a bizarre array of emotions that makes people want to stay in touch. The reasons vary from person to person and situation to situation. There are no hard fast rules.

[ewomack]

And I prefer pudding guts.

[braves1221]

I don't stay friends with exes.

[Sama3l.]

i talk to all my ex's... i have had the lets be mates thing played a few times, and i say ok but i get soo angry when i see them getting off with other guys. one time i slept with a ex g/fs mom and that ended our "freindship".